The preparation for the new school year can be overwhelming for parents feeling pressured to ensure that their child or children are wearing necessary uniforms and other essentials.
If a child is who struggles to communicate or in silence, an return to school following the summer vacations may be more challenging.
Many students in school are overwhelmed with fear of the upcoming school year that is so overwhelming that if in silence, it can cause suicide among children..
What’s popular on social media could be a great place to start to discover what is important to children. And while discussing the health of their minds isn’t so common these days as it was the past however, there’s much to be done.
TikTok and Twitter has teens and preteens discussing the “back to school necklace’. And while initially parents might dismiss it as a necessity, it has a deeper significance that should not be overlooked because talking about it could save the life of a child.
Urban Dictionary – a website that focuses on defining new slang terms and explains that a back-to-school necklace can be an alternative name for a knot. This is because of the overwhelming sadness you feel after school begins to resume .’
One user on Twitter posted an image and wrote”Currently working on my back-to-school necklace! !’
For some kids who are under pressure from schoolwork, friends or their family life can be too much to bear.
About seven percent of UK youngsters have tried to commit suicide before the age of 17 as per research published by The British Journal of Psychiatrystatistics published by The Guardian back in February.
It also pointed out that more than 4 out of 10 people have suffered self-harm in the last year. Experts believe that the number could increase due to the spread of the disease.
Dr Malie Coyne, a Clinical psychologist and the author of ‘Love In out, Love out An approach that is compassionate to parenting your child who is anxious Dr. Malie Coyne was shocked to discover the new trend.
“The trend of the “back-to-school necklace” surprised me since I have a near-eight and a almost 10-year-old daughter. However, I think it’s essential as a parent to be able to speak the ability to talk about feelings at home where emotions are talked about and validated. Parents should also be encouraging their children to discuss their feelings in order about everything, not just returning in the school.’
Then she added, ‘If you’re worried about the back-to school necklaces, you can tell your child “I’ve read about this in the news and have you been aware of it?’, but it’s not necessary to discuss the specific issue unless you’re worried regarding your kid. If you’re worried about your child’s safety, speaking to them about it won’t cause them to commit suicide.’
However, Doctor. Coyne explained the importance of using the right method. She stated, “When your child tells you about something rather than gloss over it or to distract away from it, really validate their feeling and say ‘that sounds like it was really difficult for you today.'”
She also explained how approach them when talking regarding their health issues if they’re not so open with their thoughts, but you’ve seen indicators. “If you think they may be worried about returning to school or feel depressed or depressed, you could explain to them that you’ve noticed that you’ve been slightly different recently or you’ve been spending longer in your room. Talk to them about the things you’ve noticed, instead of saying in a negative manner ‘you’ve been doing the same thing’.”
She emphasized that parents often sub-parent over the age of 10 and over-parent children under 10s. Therefore, an alternative approach is required for all age groups. The doctor. Coyne explained, “When teens tell us to “Go away’, it does not always mean that they’re asking us to let them go. It could be that they are having troubles and we must assure them that we are not leaving them alone and keep track of their progress regularly. You can tell them “You’d like to be alone for a bit which is fine but I’ll be checking in a bit later as it looks like you’re finding things a bit tough today” and make sure to check in. Keep checking in. They’re in need of you more than they ever did, perhaps even more. Teens are usually more comfortable with side-to-side conversations during walks or in cars and have shorter conversations rather than lengthy ones.”
If your child has a fear of school in the same way as the “back-to-school necklace” meaning, she suggests parents “unpack” what it is that your child is afraid of about school.
If you’re telling them that I do not want to go to school, they’re clearly having an extremely black and white mental picture. You’re trying to figure out the aspect of school that’s causing their anger and the most important thing is to try to calm them down . Try to remain calm. Anxiety can be contagious. If you’re not calm, and your child doesn’t, they won’t either.’
If parents are worried whether there’s any pattern to your child’s absences or absences from school, Dr. Coyne explains how to manage the issue. “Obviously that if your child is sick, you’ll have to take your child into the GP. However, I would not let your child be glued to the TV or use a computer throughout the day when they’re away from school, since there’s no reason for them to attend school. If they’re sick, they’re sick and may stay in bed for the duration time.
You could with the permission of your child to check in with your child’s other parents, friends as well as the school to check how they’re getting along as well,’ she said.
Finding out the reason for their behavior is the key to creating positive school environments and, as Professor. Coyne warned, “You don’t want a child to spend a long time out of school because that is going to be harder for them to go back.”
The Dr. Coyne listed her key indicators that indicate that the child is not being heard:
Even children are shocked by that the word. One person uploaded a trend which encouraged others to record yourself before and after you search for “back to school necklace” and his response is shown in the video following
No matter if your child is a member of a family or only friends, Dr. Coyne highlighted the importance of all children watching out for each other.
She said, “It’s really important to encourage children and their siblings to take care of one another. In doing so, you’re trying to encourage compassion and kindness. If you see someone compassionate, you can say “that was really nice of you to have assisted your sister’, perhaps ‘….gave her an hugs’ instead of concentrate on them fighting.
She even implements her own advice in action. “I’m telling them right now that when you’re out and about with your group of friends, I’d like you to watch at each other and keep an eye on your friends as well. And do not let them go at home on their own. You must be with them and watching for one another since it’s crucial.”
If you’re concerned about your child’s wellbeing inform them of your concerns. Encourage them to speak to someone they can trust. If your child is at risk of harming himself or herself take action by contacting the GP or a medical expert for advice immediately.
Samaritans are on hand all hours of the day, seven days a week. dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258.
The below apps are useful for managing anxiety of children: Headspace (for children) Stop, Breathe and Think Kids, as well as Smile Mind.